I don't want to burden her with any of this, especially now that she needs to be calm and feel secure. You're a mom now. Best wishes for a lifetime of happiness. 2005-2023Everyday Health, Inc., a Ziff Davis company. The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of What to Expect. IS THAT WHAT SHE/HER DESERVES A GARANTEED **** UP ENVRIOMENT? He will probably try to then use the baby against you. Is she shaka Zulu or she is not attracted to u?? This is why i found it hard to break up with her although I'd thought about it many times in the past. I am planning to sit tight for now and make sure i am there for her and the child when it comes along. It tears me apart. NOW YOU WONT BE ALWAYS PHYSICALLY THERE, BUT BECUASE YOU ARE A HAPPY PERSON THAT WILL TRANSLATE THAT. I don't know if this is pregnancy hormones (I am only 5 weeks) or if I really feel this way. And 3 children. I want to be a great Dad, but I don't want to be miserable for the next 18 years - I don't know what to do. (1 to 2 kg . . Being in a lo. I would say take a step back and analyze why you are not connecting with him and see if things could be different if you two had some changes. I got pregnant and was pressured to get married. Told me "**** the baby" I was gone for a while after that but went back due to having no where else to go. There is very little physical attraction. Shy behavior A woman who is in love with you will start to be unusually shy. This site is protected by reCAPTCHA and the Google Privacy Policy and Terms of Service apply. Glancing over my shoulder in a coffee shop, I saw a couple of women, both bouncing perfectly content babies on their laps. On the other hand, if you do not love her but only want the child, it is also very selfish of you. It's that type of kindness you feel toward someone who's very close to your heart. you have a baby with a girl you dont love,but you loved her apple enough to eat it without any protection?stupid talk,absolute rubbish. My partner works alot which I think is the cause of us not having any connection? My ex boyfriend keeps liking my photos. 1.) You could have the best partner and tons of family support. You have to remember you are only going to be a victim for as long as you allow yourself to be one. @jessi, LMFAOI like ur commentVery BLUNT and to the POINT. Man up and take care of your kid, but UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES can you let her, or her family, or your family guilt trip you into "doing the right thing" and marrying her. bumboclaath mi nuh hv any advice fi u.battybwoy! Steve. 'I regret having children' In pushing the boundaries of accepted maternal response, women are challenging an explosive tabooand reframing motherhood in the process By Anne Kingston At first. My boyfriend and I have only been together since November we had protected sex twice, in December, and I got pregnant. I love my daughter and i care about my wife but there is no love on my end. Girlfriend is pregnant don't know if it's mine. I guess I'm just looking for someone on the same boat because I really wish I could have someone to talk to. *I also grew up in a home where my parents were unhappy. there will be hatred, resentment, and misery. Now i have sleepless nights trying to find an angle but without success. I've made my OWN money since I was 15 years old and before I quit my job to MOVE Paid for all my own stuff and bills WITHOUT his help. The educational health content on What To Expect is reviewed by our medical review board and team of experts to be up-to-date and in line with the latest evidence-based medical information and accepted health guidelines, including the medically reviewed What to Expect books by Heidi Murkoff. Please specify a reason for deleting this reply from the community. Anyway, if you don't want to be with her, make that very clear. Firstly, I am sending my regards to you all. I don't get how you came to that conclusion and you are just a bitter girl that She will touch you in a gentle way, kiss you softly and hug you with her heart. 37 weeks today. No passion. For more information, please see our Op: get a job and support yourself. Either way, I was ready to "play house". Hi everyone! no one is going to be happy in that relationship. It's why your lady friend just said those two possibly thrilling, possibly terrifying words: "I'm pregnant." So what do you say when the woman you. To cut a long story short I'm in a very My Pregnant Girlfriend is Pushing Me Away. I tried to keep them happy and not see the fighting. Ex gf keeps driving past my house!!? Though it didn't work out, I never regretted it. I know this is not the time to criticise as the harm has already been caused, but i will still ask: If you claim you dnt love someone, how on earth did u get involved with her, let alone put her in the family way? Regret will always be there when we made a mistake. U r runnin away from marriage cos u didn love her b4 ?? Noooo you have to marry and then spend the rest of your lives in hell with someone you slept with? useless boy!! Copyright 2017 - 2022 by LoveDevani.com. I want to be a father!!! Be responsible of your act and decision on something. well you could say society won because it was able to force a marriage albeit a miserable one. 4. OK LETS TRY TO LOOK AT WHAT IS: IS ANYONE THINKING ABOUT THIS FROM THE CHILD PERSPECTIVE? you are 18 or older, you read and agreed to the. She may have decided against an abortion thinking you will still be with her, but if not, TELL HER it is over and you will not be involved with her anymore (except of course whatever involvement you ahve with the child, support and custody-wise). think twice before sharing personal details, foster a friendly and supportive environment, remove fake accounts, spam and misinformation, delete posts that violate our community guidelines, reviewed by our medical review board and team of experts. So family pressured us to get married. The ex and i still argue sometimes but you have to learn when to shut up. I hid the drama from my children, making up excuses while he never home. Falling in love again at 47 and marrying for the second time at 52 was a miracle. He and my parents think that we are in love, but I have been keeping my true feelings to myself for 6 months: I don't love him. He has been nothing but supportive, but I do not love him. I think it's best to do what will make you the happiest. Why not abortion?? If someone truly needs GA, that's absolutely what it's for. After a wonderful pregnancy I spontaneously gave birth at 29 weeks. You CAN NOT let someone have the upper hand on you. She has someone who depends solely on her. I was literally about to break up with her (we were in the process of breaking up), when she announced she was pregnant. I was By entering this site you declare To begin, the average cost of vaginal delivery in the US, with health insurance, is $4,300. The end result was the same my siblings and I had the worse upbringing. You had the intention to be with someone for fun without taking the consequences seriously. At the end of the day, you won't be able to find happiness that you have been looking for. Im in the exact same boat man. Nobody really knows what to expect when having a baby, but it does change everything, even if you're determined it won't. Some people may view the prospect of that change as scary and they may doubt their parental skills." I talked with him about how we had to stop thinking about ourselves and trying to hurt each other. It was ok if we didn't want to be together. He nearly killed you. Paula Perry has a multi-page spreadsheet titled "Squirrels," which details the health and wellness of tiny, injured baby squirrels she keeps in her house. You decided to have a child with a man you barely know, you use him and his money (as you wrote, he can afford to pay for your car and other stuff) and you want us to praise you. So, we got married. the guy might turn into a psychopath and malevolent towards the girl.he would also probably turn into a serial cheater and wife beater which is usually what happens. I feel like I'm forcing myself to love her. Will you make a better progress by doing so? Sorry for the long story, but I wanted to give you an example of how the other side of things could go. Romantic relationship of beautiful couple. 9 min read. One slight problem I don't love her! I try to act normal as Bella and I sit here talking, even though I'm feeling abnormally attracted to her even . Lastly, keeping a child she wanted to abort could cause her to hate the child, it's not guaranteed she would love the child when it was born. It will not update but downgrade yourself. This is the most stupid guy I have seen in my life twety something years of existance. Source these things out and make a plan to leave. I want to love this baby, but I can't shake how I feel. AND THIS ALSO INCLUDES AN UNHAPPY CHILD. Asking why you had sex with her in the first place wont solve this problem cos its everywhere in our societies and its just unfortunate your hit and run opportunity couldnt worked out. He has been nothing but supportive, but I do not love him. BE A MANam done. Be confident. It's stressful I have strong feelings for him and he says he does to but it's not just are little fantasy anymore things got so rushed and our maturity levels are so different. And remember, folks who don't want kids don't want kids. Men don't have a biological clock in the same sense as women. seriously.. i find it hard to understand SOME MEN. It's like I've been sleepwalking all this timeI apologize for my rumbling, i really needed to get this off my chest. Do you think that she would let you be a father if you two were to split? Sometimes people make choices to abort, adopt, or keep the child. Don't create a situation where you are stuck and can be controlled like that. The author playing in the snow in December 2022. In order to fully understand why I've come to this conclusion on why men stop wanting sex with women they're in a relationship with, it's important to understand every part of the reality dose . The #1 app for tracking pregnancy and baby growth. I wasn't happy. If you do not want posts which do not comply with your state of mind, don't post. And you will also need to take a firm decision on what you think is best to be done. It just reads so snobby and lazy. After a little while, if you still feel the same (i.e. @jessi, how come i never get to meet these kind of guys,i swear i would have cut off your stupid sausage,put in the toilet and flush it off nonsence, @jessi, maame plz its rude to cut sumones sausage.sincerely the fault might come from the gal,maybe she did self arrangement ahohyehy3.and resulted in the pregnancy. U dont love her bcos u havent made ur mind to do so the moment u sit down to think about this gurl as a grown man n de future, am sure u start developin love for her and am sure u liked her thats why u slept with her what makes u slept with her?? In fact, before we found out I was pregnant (which was completely unplanned) I was thinking of breaking up with him. marrying that girl would even be a bigger mistake and problem than the first one. My two oldest remember some fighting and the divorce. or you will be 35 and wondering where your life went and if you'll ever be happy. Create an account or log in to participate. She has done nothing wrong and I feel I am just going to destroy her life! I too got burned with the kid trap. 1. Good luck! Married for few months. They were always fighting. How can I believe I fathered the child if she's been unfaithful ? It's not that they don't want to. Knowing that you don't want to have the relationship with someone, you will never be able to fake your feelings for temporary happiness. Also, if it's bad now it will only get worse once the baby is here. I was in love with someone else. **** will get tough before it gets better, but it will work out in the end. Think about it if you can't love him ever then end it and learn to co parent. It would feel odd. Nobody forces you to live with him, if you really don't like him, you can find a job and leave. Can't and haven't said a word to anyone about how i feel. SCENARIO 2: STAY WITH THE PERSON YOU LOVE. THE TRUTH IS THAT NO MATTER LOVE CANNOT BE FORCED. as expected the women are been overly sentimental, ganging up on the guy insulting, and throwing reason out the window. Everyone is happier. She's told me I'll get to see the kid and stuff but she doesn't want me in her life anymore because I make her too unhappy. Many things will change during the whole 9 months of pregnancy. I chose to divorce my husband and my boyfriend of 4yrs has now ditched meit's also the consequence for the actions that I chose GET OUT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Take public transportation until you can get your own car and focus on your baby. MzGee Ditches 3Music TV To Take Over Nana Ama McBrowns Show At UTV. SHE DESERVES A SAYING IN THIS! When a woman loves you, she's kind to you. If thats all he wants, he will be gone. have condoms been created for monkeys, so silly, i feel for your baby maannnnn, irresponsible parents. Call your old boss, call family and friends, research aid and stop telling yourself you're stuck. marriage should not be a punishment or a form of contract. My daughter was born healthy, but of course small. They had to do it because the marriage was arranged or demanded, as their families saw them as a burden and financial responsibility to be passed on to a man who was willing to take her off their hands. I must contain all this and somehow manage it thus minimizing any possible damage. As to my ex yes she is into me, we where together for over 9 years, this current relationship is just 10 months old! Your best bet might be to stay with your gf for now, bond with your child and forge a relationship with him/her. I think it's best to do what will make you the happiest. It is normal to want to lay your head on your mother's breast and feel the security and warmth of her love and compassion. Would I do it again? Obviously she is going to get custody if we split up. You're a dude she just met, maybe at a bar, maybe on a dating site. Immerse yourself in nature. This after-pregnancy condition is common, with roughly 70 to 80 percent of new mamas experiencing some degree of sadness. Will the feeling of disconnection to this baby ever go away? You're sort of talking like you want a sugar daddy. ISNT THAT WHAT WE ALL WANT? Not. Fertility is amazing, making a baby with your own body is an unreal magical power, feeding that baby with your body is some kind of sci-fi-fantasy level of madness. You can be in a long-term relationship with someone and never get married. Best of luck. Everyone has their reasons for doing things and it's not up to us to judge them. YOU GOT THIS! Sounds like you have a lot on your plate with a baby due in July. Welcome to the world little one! Group Leaders communicate with staff moderators and escalate potential violations for review, but they dont moderate discussions. Group Leaders communicate with staff moderators and escalate potential violations for review, but they dont moderate discussions. The thought of her raising my kid with another man makes me feel sick, I hate this. the repercussions and consequences of such an act always plays out. The issue is she is healthcare prof and works in OBS/GYN so there is no way way she would have an abortion, she has just been involved in too many such procedures and its just not for her. Life is too short to spend even one month chained to someone you're not in love with. love should beget love and not hate or fear..something society always fails to learn. I don't know what to do. As a matter of fact, there are many mental, emotional, and social side effects associated with being a young-faced woman. Couples do stay together when they are not in love, just for the sake of stability for the child. 2005-2023Everyday Health, Inc., a Ziff Davis company. There are many things that may cause a broken heart. know it's right to give her the fact straight but she is just a really nice person, and I feel really **** you know! Chandra is a mom of three boys (8, 4, and 3) and the founder of Oh Lovely Day, a lifestyle blog with a honest look at motherhood.She is trying to create more of an open dialogue with a no . i know for sure u dated her for longer b4 she got pregnant start looking at the quality this gal have n think of ur daughter after that give her a chance n delete that mind of not loving her out of ur mind n married her ..am sure God will give u new hrt to love her.. She is 6 months pregnant now. In fact, I was planning on breaking up with him right before I found out I was pregnant. We tried to make it work. I know things would be going so much smoother in my life if I wasn't preggo but there hasn't been a day I questioned my love for this baby. I mean really a woman gets pregnant with your child and there are no options but to marry her? It originally aired on the Fox network in the United States on January 22, 1995. A Group Leader is a What to Expect community member who has been selected by our staff to help maintain a positive, supportive tone within a group. I'm Michelle Devani and would like to take this opportunity to welcome you to my site. If you have the "baby blues" you might not notice the sadness or moodiness right away. Probably. Well of course he would keep the car. Keep reading for our tips and advice, and then give Pregnancy & Fatherhood Solutions a call today at (915) 249-1344 or visit us online to . Last updated on June 9, 2022 by Michelle Devani There are many things that may cause a broken heart. How I wish she can understand and let me leave my life and be free. A Group Owner is a member that has initiated the creation of a group to connect with other members to share their journey through the same pregnancy & baby stages. I have many regrets from the past and can't bear to add another one to the long list. !I've been married for ten long miserable years to a wife I never loved. This discussion is archived and locked for posting. I completely respect her decision on this. Sometimes it feels like you just can't win. We strive to provide you with a high quality community experience. I don't feel that he is someone that I want to be with forever. I'm supposed to get married in a month. I know that my kids love us both. Good luck to you. View woman having a baby videos Browse 599,438 woman having a baby stock photos and images available, or search for woman in labor or woman giving birth to find more great stock photos and pictures. The guy I was seeing was fun to party with but I didn't love him. Unfortunately it only lasted 4 and half years because he was becoming abusive. Your post will be hidden and deleted by moderators. We only dated for three months before I got pregnant. I don't know if your feelings of disconnection will pass but I sure hope they do. This is why friends with benefits is never a good idea. You should do what will make you happy. ALL THIS TRANSLATE TO THE CHILD. I'm having a baby with someone I'm not in love with. Man and woman making love in bed. Leaving a pregnant girlfriend with your child, in my view is very selfish and irresponsible. Apparently that first year of raising the child is very stressful, specifically on the relationship. Do not be with someone you don't want to be with. Love My Boyfriend Wants To Have A Baby With Another Woman By Alex Alexander Written on Dec 23, 2022 Photo: fizkes / Shutterstock When I met my polyamorous boyfriend , Buddy, I couldn't. cos it not easy to becme a single mother huh. He's provided for me financially, has given me a house and a car, and is really into being a father. "Most women will find intercourse painful up until the three-month mark," notes Ross. He shdnt forget the welfare of the child involved. It was important to me that my children had as normal upbringing as possible. But the decision that you take will not only have an impact in your life, but in others people's life too. Long story short: we've togheter Long distance girlfriend pregnant and is thinking about breaking up. I do want to be a father but i always imagined it different, like being with a woman that i am in love with. not the father, mother or child. We respect everyones right to express their thoughts and opinions as long as they remain respectful of other community members, and meet What to Expects Terms of Use. YOU CANNOT PROVIDE HAPPINESS WHEN YOU ARE NOT HAPPY. She actually is (5 months now), but I took all the words back (the reasons why I didn't want to be with her). Take this advice as if your life depends on it. Need help, advice? It might even be too late for you anyway. I know many people that don't feel a connection to their babies for whatever reason until they are born, it happens and it will definitely change once you see his little face. I'm curious as to how he is selfish?? Unless GF is somehow unfit, she'll get custody, meaning she makes the calls and gets support (e.g. Please whitelist our site to get all the best deals and offers from our partners. Hey I know exactly how you feel. SEE THEM EVERYDAY. Eventually I grew to love him, but not the fairy tale kind of love. Ex My moving on process. In the time that I got pregnant I feel that I was in a daze thinking I was in love but recently I feel like I snapped out of it. You moved into his house, you let him buy you a car and you quit your job because he was financial there. She knows him for 9 MONTHS not years. You said you quit your job Is that because of the pregnancy? The Stages of Wanting to Have a Baby, by Age From being adorably clueless to using all the condoms to #MomLife. He made a baby with you but doesn't seem to support you financially and you don't live together. In November 2022, I gave birth to my precious baby girl. Satisfaction can be found through bringing up children . Find advice, support and good company (and some stuff just for fun). I've been in one relationship like it and told myself I wouldn't be in one again. Gabrielle Union and Dwyane Wade have welcomed their first baby to their family. But there's a catch: Because you believe that having this child means more to you than not having this child means to your husbandand because he had originally agreed to three kidsyour. I really don't want to mess this child's life up. :(. I got my, now wife, pregnant but she never loved me, in fact a month before she got pregnant she actually went to spend the night with some dude at a hotel in a different city, but she told me she just wanted to go away for a couple of days. I have 6 sisters and three brothers. You need to discuss with him so that you won't need to face the how do I deal with a break up while I am still pregnant his baby alone. Aim to have a better and best partner that you can have. Trust me dude, do whatever you have to to end this A.S.A.P. A cesarean birth, which accounts for 21% of births today, costs around. MUST READ: Is Christmas Bibilical Or Paganism? I have a good job with good income and will pay half of the costs, I didn't want to lose her but I did. I tried to make myself love him. Only knowing that you don't feel good with your current situation won't make any change unless you do. Don't feel guilty if you're not in a constant state of love and bliss when you have a new baby. But, learning from the past and making it as a lesson is a different story. If I could do something different, it would be to divorce as soon as my last daughter was born. my point is no one really wins in this situation. Damaged. Features: Kris Fluffy named herself aptly - "fluffy" because she says she doesn't shave a single hair on her body. I used to . But I don't feel the need to hold that up as a shield (though every time I see a movie where the childless woman is the villain I understand why my fellow non-parents doth protest too much . I just put myself on hold. Please I need your help because I might be pushed to get married when am not prepared. So are you guys in a relationship or just friend with benefits? And one of the problems is the appearance of a question having a baby with someone you don't want to be with, how to deal with it? Ive just seen your reply and am unhappoy in my relationship but dont want to end it for the kids sake! Some of us got promoted while pregnant or found new jobs, it is not impossible. no wonder we have the type of problems we have in our communitieswe are always reacting instead of thinking.. you cant correct a mistake or problem with another people..
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